Does God want you to be in charge?

1 Corinthians 1 18 For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.

a picture of sameness yet difference, differing roles yet equal value as no part of God is lesser than God

Genesis 1 26 Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.” 27 So God created the man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

Genesis 2 16 And the LORD God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die.” 18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him.” 19 Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the beasts of the field. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”

What a beautiful way God made the woman! Genesis 1:26-27 and Genesis 2:19-23 present a picture here of how the woman relates to the man and that together the two different genders image God who we also see referencing himself in the plural form – a picture of sameness yet difference, differing roles yet equal value as no part of God is lesser than God. These beautiful scriptures also clearly show the man in an authority role over the woman before the fall. Firstly, the man gets to name the woman which is a symbol of his authority just like he names the creatures that are a part of God’s animal creation. Secondly, the Lord directly gives the man a command that is to apply to both of them before the woman is even made. Thus, God gives the man special responsibility for the enforcement of His Word on the earth and with respect to the man’s relationship with the woman. Some have come to describe this responsibility as spiritual leadership. Through these things, the Lord reveals that His male creation is to have an authority position with respect to His female creation. 

Eve’s prides tells her that she should be in charge. She likes to be in charge. She likes being the boss. This is what God made her for right? Not according to scripture.

Genesis 3 1 Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, “You must not eat from any of the trees in the garden’?” 2 The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, 3 but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’” 4 “You will not surely die,” the serpent said to the woman. 5 “For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” 6 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some of it and ate it. She also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate it. 13 Then the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”

What was Eve’s great mistake here? She had her eye on the job God gave her husband. When an opportunity arose for them to switch jobs, and thus for her to slip into a more comfortable role of being in charge, she took it. No questions asked. No permission sought. Adam did likewise. When an opportunity arose to pervert God’s creative order he snatched it. Instead of the original creative order of God over Adam, Adam over Eve, and Adam and Eve, together, over animals, Adam stands by silent while an animal orders his wife, his wife orders him, and he directly contradicts God with respect to the command about the forbidden tree’s fruit. God had an order for things. The first power couple, Adam and Eve, turned things upside down by perverting that order.

Eve in fact was deceived by what the serpent said.

1 Timothy 2 11 A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent. 13 For Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. 15 But women will be saved through childbearing – if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.

There is no sin in being confused rather in NOT going to get instruction from the proper godly source. Eve should not have only consulted her own mind to determine if the serpent was correct or lying rather she should have asked godly authority like God or Adam, what God actually said. The scripture does not show that Adam, who was given the command that death would come if they ate from the tree directly from God, was confused. Rather scripture shows that Adam did not correct Eve or intervene when the serpent started talking to his wife about what God said when he is the one who got the command directly and has responsibility for enforcing it. He was passive and disobedient in not teaching and leading his wife while she was confused. He blatantly ignored these commands God gave: 1. to lead his wife- Genesis 2:18-23 2. to rule the animals not listen to them-Genesis 1:28 3. to not eat of that tree-Genesis 2:16-17. Eve’s prides tells her that she should be in charge. She likes to be in charge. She likes being the boss. This is what God made her for right? Not according to scripture. When Eve took the reigns and Adam hushed up things went crazy bad.

As a result of their disobedience, Adam and Eve sustain huge losses: in their relationship with God and with each other.

Genesis 3 7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves. 8 Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORD God among the trees of the garden. 9 But the LORD God called to the man, ‘Where are you?’ 10 He answered, ‘I heard you in the garden and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.’ 11 And he said, ‘Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?’ 12 The man said, ‘The woman you put here with me – she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.’ 16 To the woman he said, ‘I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.’ 17 To Adam he said, ‘Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat it,’ ‘Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of your life. 18 It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. 19 By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return. 

The Lord turned Eve loose to her desire to go for Adam’s job. She is now cursed with looking longingly at the authority God has given Adam and sees her husband as the enemy. He is the one who God likes more than her right? The Lord turned Adam loose to his original passivity. He now hides from God in an attempt to avoid a confrontation with God that is inevitable as God knows exactly where Adam is. When he is not hiding, he is blaming. Who better to place the blame on than his dear wife Eve. She is the one took over so now she should be responsible for enforcing God’s Word right? Eve is wrong to think God likes Adam more than her. Adam is wrong to place responsibility on Eve that God in His Word did not give her.

Also I want to take the time to stop and share something God shared with me during one of the numerous times I have been pouring over this passage: Nakedness (sometimes in the form of sex) happens where there is safety in marriage. In other words, it happens where both participants in the marriage feel as though they can safely reveal their flawed selves to their spouse without holding anything back. Covenant love is gracious and creates this safety. Covenant love means forgiving and overlooking sin. That is the ONLY way to stay married – to not count sin! What a miracle this is when we can actually do it. Not counting sin means expecting sin to happen then looking to scripture on how to deal with it. If we live expecting ourselves and our spouses to sin we are one step closer to true relational restoration. We see from Genesis 3 that the effect of sin in our lives is self-consciousness. Not necessarily directly from some sin we just did but in general the effect of sin in the world is that we feel insecure about ourselves. For me as a woman, these feelings of unworthiness from sin especially affect how I see my body (i.e. feeling fat and ugly). God gives a covering to Adam and Eve for this reason. That covering in spiritual terms is the freedom to mess up or be messy creatures without necessarily breaking our relationship with God. If we choose life in Jesus the relationship with God is restored after the first time we sinned and broke our relationship with God. If we do not choose life in Jesus then the relationship remains broken and leads to death or eternal separation from God also known as hell.