“You should get a job”

If I had a dime for every time someone has told me that I should get a job, let’s just say I’d have a lot of dimes! Also a heads up this article is going to be short. Just to make the point that I am busy! lol Well really it’s going to be short just because this is an awkward time for me to be writing but for the record I do find myself having plenty of work to do though to most “I don’t have a job.”

While I am not “getting a job” I have time and energy and focus to do things like this:

The internet guy came today. So what did I do? Gospel sprinkles! I began to ask questions about our bandwidth and whether it would be enough. “Well what do you do on the internet he asked?” Instead of hushing up or mumbling, I said in a straight-forward tone of voice, “We watch a lot of sermons on youtube.” We watch a lot of sermons. I’m kind of bashful about just putting it out there but such a witness could have eternity changing consequences so I say it anyways. Now onto the “what do you do” questions. “So you and your husband both graduated from law school? What kind of law do you practice? There is a lot of money in family law these days.” “Yes we find that quite sad so many people are getting divorced,” I replied. “I am a housewife currently. I have done some legal volunteer work advocating for children in the foster care system already in our short time here. There is a lot of need in work where you don’t get paid.” “Isn’t that the truth.” he answered.

Gospel sprinkles or making Jesus look attractive is the work I do all day. It starts with my homemaking but certainly doesn’t end there. A woman who is “busy at home” shows that Christ is worthy, especially one with degrees or others very “marketable” skills that could have her anywhere else at 1 in the afternoon. Yet when she chooses to put the best of her assets and her time into building a Christ-centered home she shows the world that Jesus is worthy in a huge way.

The ATM was broken at the bank. Accident? I don’t think so. I happily went into the branch, grateful for the fresh air and to be getting to more social aspects of my work. The teller at the bank was very friendly and seemed happy to have a customer walk in. “We don’t want to buy a house,” I found myself saying almost without thinking. “After we save up we want to move to Europe and minister to the traumatized refugees from the Middle East. It’s such a war zone. They need to be loved you know. My husband and I are Christians and we want to be there for them to love them.” “Oh,” he responded pleasantly. “Does your husband do that kind of work now?” “Oh no,” I chuckled, “he is in law and finance but this is our dream.” This is our dream-to pour our hearts out, and perhaps our lives too if we end up in a place that is a bit more dangerous than here, for Jesus. We are saving up to be a living sacrifice. Not so odd though when you read the New Testament. Isn’t that what all Christians do with their lives? They try to get filled up with Christ to be poured out like Him for the saving of the world. Now my bank teller knows someone who would dare dream such a dream.

The sad truth is that if  I didn’t do such flexible work as being a homemaker and a helper to my husband I would be too distracted, busy, tired or all three to even remember to leave behind gospel sprinkles wherever I go let alone execute it.

As followers of Jesus we have the mind of Christ so it’s not all on us.

1 Corinthians 2 16 ‘For who has known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him?’ But we have the mind of Christ.

But the Lord at least needs a willing mind centered on Him to work with. This wouldn’t be my mind if I was wrapped up in deadlines and what I’m going to contribute at the next board meeting.

Colossians 4 3 And pray for us too, that God may open a door for our message, so that we may proclaim the mystery of Christ, for which I am in chains. 4 Pray that I may proclaim it clearly, as I should.

I don’t want people to have to do a forensic investigation when they enter my home to determine if I may possibly be a follower of Christ-like if I have a random cross somewhere and someone sees it and then they start analyzing whether it’s a Gothic architectural cross because someone who lives in the home is into art, or perhaps it is an ill chosen decoration that only looks like a cross if you turn your head sideways but mostly doesn’t look like one from head on. I don’t want there to be any question about whether or not I am a Jesus-freak loving God above this world crazy kind of woman. Rather I want it to be obvious. So do I paint an even larger cross on my front door? No. Rather I season my actions and my speech and my real life with the gospel so it is clear.

Are you the kind of person who after you die your adult grandchildren will sit in someone’s living room trying to figure out if you really believed and may be in heaven after all. A Jesus-freak like any kind of “freak” should be obvious to the world-and obvious from far away. If it is necessary to hold a formal debate to get to the heart of the matter of your salvation state then perhaps you are one of the many on the wide road to destruction-one who looked nice and seemed kind but who doesn’t have the cross of Christ written all over her life and her forehead. Perhaps your forehead reads “proud” or “accomplished” or “well off” from your absence of wrinkles relative to others your age or your dyed hair. But do your life and forehead, for that matter, read Jesus??? That is the question. Do they say “I suffer daily at the hands of a world who hates my God”?

I often wonder of the kind of so-called Christians who tell me I really need to get a job would they tell Hillary Clinton she needs to get a job? To be “fair” politically speaking, would they tell Sarah Palin that she needs to get a job? Perhaps they may beg Sarah Palin to get a different job, like one where she doesn’t talk and embarrass the entire United States. Only kidding! (kind of…) Back to the point though, would they tell a woman who works at an office that she should “at least get a part-time job”? Do they think that she has time for a part-time job? And yet somehow I do. Perhaps if the Sovereign Lord thought to change the rotation of the earth such that there are 50 hours in a day (which I pray He does NOT do as the 24 hours we already get suck pretty bad already for someone who is in the world but not of it and waiting to go to her real homeland) then such requests that I, a homemaker, get a part-time job in addition to the overtime job I already have would make sense.

Most days my head is spinning with how many different jobs all related to homemaking or helping my husband, I can do to the point that I barely have time to write this article on why I can’t get another job! I want to be free to share Christ, to stop and care for people, and to manage my home with the competence and skill God has given me not use those skills to build up some other man’s business. Jesus is worthy of my talents and I want to build His kingdom here. I want to work daily on eternal matters that won’t fade when the old heaven and the old earth fade like a memory under the glow of almighty God who is the Amen and is forever praised!

Revelations 21 1 Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and there was no longer any sea.

Here is the work God has said in His Word women can do to build His kingdom.

1 Timothy 5 9 No widow may be put on the list of widows unless she is over sixty, has been faithful to her husband, 10 and is wells known for her good deeds, such as bringing up children, showing hospitality, washing the feet of the saints, helping those in trouble and devoting herself to all kinds of good deeds. 14 So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander.

Titus 2 4 Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

Interestingly, the Lord also commands women to act in quiet submission in the context of church.

1 Timothy 2 11 A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner.

Am I going to all of a sudden transform into this quiet, submissive creature during church or during devotions with my husband or do I need to practice this kind of quietness in the rest of my life? How can I be quiet while I’m boss lady telling everyone what to do and how to do it? Rather, I choose to order around my dishware and my vacuum cleaner and my electronics but I don’t work under a spotlight unless I accidentally step into it. Maybe you can handle being large and in charge and not get an ego but I can’t. So I work at home and mind my own household and those God places in my path until the Lord comes back or tells me otherwise.

I could understand that you cannot imagine how there could be that much work at home if let’s say you are a young adult maybe in your twenties, who has been in school most of your life and maybe are just out, and have had apartments but you still run to mommy and daddy’s house to get your needs met, especially on the holidays which you would never dare consider spending at your place because it’s just that-a place and not a home. If you call your mom a lot and have her walk you through every little thing or keep your bank account close to your parents or whatever, then maybe YOU would not have a lot to do at home. You’re never that far from your parent’s home anyways and you can ride off of what your parents have already done. In fact, as much time as your parents devote to you outside their normal jobs you’re basically a part of their marriage or lack there of. However when you build a household from the ground up, seeking wisdom from older adults but not letting your parents do the work of actually building a home for you, and when your goals is to create a home or cohesive household with Jesus at the center where you’d be excited to spend Christmas then you have a lot of work to do at home…AND YOU DO NOT HAVE TIME TO GET ANOTHER JOB!